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Why Do You Blog?

What is the purpose of my blog? ... What am I "selling"? This is a question that I suspect many of us never really ask ourselves until we've been doing this for quite a while. Yet ironically enough, it's probably THE Question that we should have absolutely known the answer to before we ever even got started. The good news is, it's not too late ... Simply "start over". Before you change your theme again for the 21st time, or write another post about a subject that you're not really all that interested in, but it's the "niche" you've chosen, STOP ... Think about why you started your blog. What is your goal? NOW ... Build your blog around that goal. DON'T get DISTRACTED by other things. If you've decided that what you're really selling is YOU ... Then why the heck are you running off to check your adsense statistics every 3 hours? (and btw why do you even have adsense on that type of blog?) On the flip side, if yo

How Many Of Your Followers Actually Know Like And Trust You?

Ok, so I'm going through my twitter account yesterday, trying to make a list of people who I can honestly say that I'm "friends" with. It's still an ongoing process. But I expect that by the time all is said and done, my "friends" list will encompass well south of 10% of the total amount of people that I follow. Now maybe, just maybe, this says something about me ... However, I strongly suspect that my personal experience is well within the norm. So why does this matter? Well for one thing, if I'm going to click a link ... and especially if it involves a potential purchase ... guess who's links I am mostly likely to click on? Ding, Ding, Ding. The correct answer is ... the people who I already Know, Like and Trust. And especially when it comes to something like twitter, if I'm going to make a list of people who's Tweets that I might actually, you know, READ ... guess who I'm most likely to put on it? Which brings me full circle ...

The IRS Is Not As Scary As You May Think

First an admission ... Due to circumstances that were largely NOT beyond my control (even though I'd love to use that excuse), I just recently filed several years of back taxes. I won't go too far into the mucky details; but basically I had one tax year where I either owed a bit, or was due a refund; depending on whether or not someone was legally considered a dependent. The problem was, I was missing a key piece of information that would help make that determination. And that's where my "stupid" started ... Instead of just sucking it up, and paying the high 3 figure amount (really not significant in the big scheme of things) for that tax year, I decided to wait for the documentation, that I expected would allow me to get a refund instead. Then I got even "stupider" ... While waiting (and waiting, and waiting, and waiting) for said documentation, I subsequently ass-u-me (d) that it wouldn't be a good idea to file current year returns, since I sti

A Dream Board In Your Pocket

I'm a fan of using a dream board as part of an overall goal setting strategy. In fact, I've previously written about how to make your own online dream board. But what if you don't always have access to your computer? Or what if you're like many of us, and you already spend Too Much Time sitting in front of this silly box? Is there anything wrong with going totally low tech ? Here's an idea ... Next time you're down at Wally World, stop by the stationary section, and pick up one of those little pocket sized notebooks. Not the little tiny flip-up ones. One of the one that opens from the side like a regular notebook, but is small enough to fit in a cargo pocket or purse ... I think it's 4x6. Use it just like you would your online dream board: Put the date at the top of each page. Then divide your daily entries into 3 sections: Today I am Thankful for … Things I like about myself today … My Goals and Intentions … Make a new "post" every mornin

How To Prepare For A Military Deployment

So what are some of the steps that a military guy (or girl) should take when they find out they'll be going on an "overseas adventure"? And I'm not talking about your military training, or the endless checklists and appointments that your unit will surely have for you. I'm thinking more along the lines of how to make sure that your personal stuff ... and your family's, is squared away, so that you don't have to worry about it while you're over there. (depending on your job, you'll probably have enough other stuff to worry about) Ok, let's start with the important stuff ... A Visit to the Legal Office Ok, first area, and I already lied when I said I wouldn't write about things that are on your unit checklist ... I'm sure this is. That said, I do have a few insights to add when it comes to things you need to do at your base/post legal office. Update your Will - If you don't already have a will, you need one. And if you do have on

The Baby Milk Shake

Jaiden has been eating from a spoon (and with her fingers) for months now. But given the choice, she much prefers her own personal "baby milk shake". At a minimum, she drinks one of these right before bed, and about hour after she wakes up in the morning. It may just be a coincidence, but Jaiden actually started sleeping in her crib, through the night, not long after we started giving her "the milk shake". So, you might be asking yourself, what's in this concoction? It's pretty simple actually: Milk (or formula if that's what your baby is still drinking) Rice or Mixed Cereal Fruit (either baby jar food, or finely blended fresh fruit) It all goes in the bottle, and gets shaken up. Here are the steps I use to prepare it: Fill the bottle a little over 1/2 way with milk or formula Add about 1/2 a jar of fruit ... enough so the bottle now appears nearly 3/4 full Top off with a couple of scoops of cereal. (leave a little space at the top to aid in shakin

The Race | DH Groberg

“Quit! Give up! You’re beaten!” They shout at me and plead. “There’s just too much against you now; This time you can’t succeed!” And as I start to hang my head In front of failure’s face, My downward fall is broken by The memory of a race And hope refills my weakened will As I recall that scene; For just the thought of that short race Rejuventates my being. A children’s race- young boy, young men, How I remember well. Excitement, sure! But also fear; It wasn’t hard to tell. They all lined up so full of hope Each thought to win that race. Or tie for first, or if not that, At least take second place. And fathers watched from off the side Each cheering for his son. And each boy hoped to show his dad That he would be the one. The whistle blew and off they went Young hearts and hopes afire. To win and be the hero there Was each young boy’s desire And one boy in particular Whose dad was in the crowd Was running near the lead and thought: “My dad will be so proud!” But as he speeded down the

3 Reasons Why Failure Is Good

"Success is going from failure to failure without loss of enthusiasm." --Winston Churchill Most adults go through life with an almost constant Fear of Failure. Which is kind of ironic actually, since learning how to fail is almost a Requirement for eventually becoming Successful. How often have any of us experienced set-backs which at the time, seem like the end of the world, but in actuality are often the stepping stones to the things we really want? Here are 3 reasons why failure can actually be a good thing ... Inspiration I know, I know, that sounds totally counterintuitive. But think about it, when you're trying something for the 3rd, 4th or even 100th time, "I intend to succeed This Time " can actually be a pretty strong motivator. Humility Let's face it, we all have times where our heads get a little to big for our own good. A small failure here and there can serve as a very useful breaking mechanism to bring us back down to earth. It's the be

How Do You Define Rich?

So what exactly does it mean to be "rich"? Is it a specific level of income per month, or per year? Is it when your net worth (assets minus obligations) reaches a certain pre-defined threshold? Is it a "lifestyle", that may or may not have anything to do with how much money you actually have? To be honest, I really don't know exactly how to pin down a really good definition of rich. One thing's for sure though, it sure does seem like most of us spend an inordinate amount of time and energy obsessing over the idea of BEing rich some day. Here's something to chew on ... What if we are already rich , but don't even realize it? What if being rich, while still involving money, has nothing to do with exactly how much you actually make? Here's my definition: You are Rich when you have Freedom From Money . Think about that for a second ... It could be argued that the financial crisis our country is currently undergoing was caused by people with a lot

Positive Visioning ... Making Up The Future

I think at some point along the line, I probably "stole" this idea from someone else. But, since I've been using it myself (and sharing it with others) for a couple of years now, I'm going to go ahead and serve up my own interpretation here in the following paragraphs. Can you Predict the Future? Seriously. Can we ever really say with 100% certainty what will happen a year from now? How about a month from now? A week? A day? A minute? Heck, when you get right down to it, do we honestly even know exactly what's going to happen 10 second from now? Sure, most of us can make a pretty good guess about what we think the future will bring ... especially in the near term. But unless you're a clairvoyant who answered "yes" to the above questions, isn't it fair to say that when it come to forecasting our short term destinies ... We're basically Making it All Up. Are you with me so far? Can you accept the premise that essentially every single

10 Laws of Leadership

Yesterday, as part of the 15-day online boot camp, I received this list in my email box: 10 Laws of Leadership: 1. The Leader must have a dream larger than those he/she leads. 2. The Leader must have an attitude superior to those he/she leads. 3. The Leader is responsible and admits when he/she has made a mistake. 4. The Leader is a decision maker. 5. The Leader puts those he/she leads first. 6. The Leader sets the example by being in the front of the pack. 7. The Leader displays a commitment to integrity and character. 8. The Leader strives for excellence in all things. 9. The Leader displays a commitment to personal growth. 10. The Leader has the highest level of persistence and determination. The action item to go along with this list, was to write it down on a piece of paper, and rate myself on a scale of 1 to 10 in each area. Then over the coming weeks and months, I'll periodically re-evaluate myself, and update the ratings. My goal is to honestly become a "10" in ea

Whats Good About This?

If there was ever such a thing as a "magic question" I suspect this may be it. I've been accused from time to time of being too optimistic. lol, my glass is usually 3/4 full. Even if optimism doesn't come quite that naturally to you, it is possible to find something of a silver lining in almost any situation in which you find yourself. It's not necessarily "easy", but it is "simple" (wow, how many things in life does that describe?). Here's how it works ... Next time you find yourself angry, upset, worried, stressed out, etc., Stop and Take a Deep Breath; then ask yourself " what's good about this? " Don't worry if nothing comes to you at first. Keep asking the question " what's good about this ?", until you come up with something workable. I guarantee you, no matter how bad the situation may seem, if you ask this question enough times, you Will find something "good" to take away your experience.

Reverse Fate

I have kind of a funny way of looking at "fate" ... I don't believe that any of our futures are predetermined, or destined to be. Each day, we make literally millions of little decisions that each have an impact on what our future will bring, and the next set of choices we will be presented. In short, whether we realize it or not, we do have control of our imminent destiny. But, here's where my view of things gets a little more interesting ... I also absolutely believe that everything that has happened to us in the past ... whether 10 seconds, or 10 years ago ... has happened for a reason . Once it's done, we couldn't have changed it if we wanted to. However, we can (and should) use our past (even Very recent) to guide our future decision making. Two main "truths" I (try to) take away from my theory: 1) Nothing ever "happens to" us . One way or another we made a decision (or more likely many decisions) that put in a each and every situ

Easy Running Tips

Ok be honest, how many of you made New Year's resolutions to get in better shape? I didn't really make a resolution. However, despite the fact that we do a fairly intense workout up at work a couple of days a week, I've pretty much always struggled when it comes running. I'm slow, and to be perfectly honest I never really enjoyed it. Well, I'm finally getting to the point where even though running is still not "fun" for me, I do actually look forward to getting out and just relaxing my mind for 45 minutes or so. Obviously I'm not any kind of an expert when it comes to running, so take the following advise for what it's worth. I just wanted to share a couple of things that have helped me improve my endurance and speed, and even lose body fat , over the past couple of months. photo credit: Holton Gallery Get a good pair of shoes - In addition to giving your feet better support and cushion, a quality pair of shoes is also likely to have a psy

Money ... It's Not How Much You Make ... It's How Much You Keep

My step-son Johnathan loves to go around telling his friends that we "have a lot of money". Now, to an 11 year old, I suppose that could very well feel true. And in a way, he does have a point. However ... The more money you make, the more money you spend As illogical as that statement may seem to some, I honestly don't think a more true sentence has ever been uttered. I got a first hand view of this concept just last night when Justin (my 16 year old), had a school assignment to make a budget. It was suggested that he ask his parents to estimate their own expenses. At first, he was utterly amazed by how much money we make each month. Then, just a few minutes later, he was equally stunned by the relatively small percentage that was actually left after savings, taxes and paying all the bills. ... unfortunately, I wasn't as surprised as Justin. I think I actually have a pretty good handle on bringing in additional income. However, much like our own US Government, it&#