Saturday, February 7, 2009

Whats Good About This?

If there was ever such a thing as a "magic question" I suspect this may be it.

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I've been accused from time to time of being too optimistic. lol, my glass is usually 3/4 full.

Even if optimism doesn't come quite that naturally to you, it is possible to find something of a silver lining in almost any situation in which you find yourself. It's not necessarily "easy", but it is "simple" (wow, how many things in life does that describe?).

Here's how it works ...

Next time you find yourself angry, upset, worried, stressed out, etc., Stop and Take a Deep Breath; then ask yourself "what's good about this?"

Don't worry if nothing comes to you at first.

Keep asking the question "what's good about this?", until you come up with something workable.

I guarantee you, no matter how bad the situation may seem, if you ask this question enough times, you Will find something "good" to take away your experience.

Focusing on your answer will help you to more quickly let go of your current worry or stress.

BTW, this works especially well when used in conjunction with Smile Therapy.

lol, and in case you're wondering what inspired this post ... I'm currently cleaning out my closet, getting ready for the movers to come on Thursday (we will be stationed at Ft Hood, Texas as of April 1st).

I'll admit, I've had to use this technique several times already this morning. ;-)

Keep havin FuN!
Todd

p.s. Credit where credit is due (sort of). I learned about this question several years ago from a book. Unfortunately, I can't remember which book it was. If it comes back to me, and/or somebody tells me, I will update this post with a link.

7 comments:

  1. Todd you couldn't be more right. The ability to smile even as things are going wrong and people are badmouthing me has kept me going all through life.

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  2. [...] something Todd told me about how, whenever I was aggro, I should sit back and say to myself, What’s Good About This, and it would bring it all into perspective, and it worked, thanks [...]

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  3. Nothing wrong with optimism. If you can smile when annoyed, it's likely that your mood will never turn too sour. And that's something we all benefit from.

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  4. That's awesome...I get worked up and so angry these days, I feel as though I will give myself stomach cancer.
    "What's good about this??"
    I love it!

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  5. Hi everybody, I'm glad you found it helpful.

    Keep havin FuN!
    Todd

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  6. It's amazing how often we attribute our happiness or sadness to external forces when we really hold control in our own perspective

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  7. its The Glad Game in "Pollyanna" by Eleanor H Porter. Written in 1913. i expect lots of other people have put it in their Pop Psychology books since. its pretty much a basic thought-chain which is innate in positive people. And it really works. I think every child should read this book. Better still, i think every parent should share this with their child by reading it together.

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