Monday, February 2, 2009

Reverse Fate

I have kind of a funny way of looking at "fate" ...

I don't believe that any of our futures are predetermined, or destined to be. Each day, we make literally millions of little decisions that each have an impact on what our future will bring, and the next set of choices we will be presented.

In short, whether we realize it or not, we do have control of our imminent destiny.

But, here's where my view of things gets a little more interesting ...

I also absolutely believe that everything that has happened to us in the past ... whether 10 seconds, or 10 years ago ... has happened for a reason.

Once it's done, we couldn't have changed it if we wanted to.

However, we can (and should) use our past (even Very recent) to guide our future decision making.

Two main "truths" I (try to) take away from my theory:

1) Nothing ever "happens to" us. One way or another we made a decision (or more likely many decisions) that put in a each and every situation we find ourselves.

2) If we accept the premise that everything in the past happened for a reason, it's almost guaranteed that the greatest lessons and opportunities will often come from the circumstances that seem to make the Least Sense at the time.

I sometimes ... ok, often ... struggle with both of these "truths".

At the same time though, there is something very liberating about this set of beliefs. I can't change the past, and I have control over my future. lol, unless I really suck at decision making, that's a pretty hopeful message.

So what are some of your beliefs about fate and destiny?

Todd

3 comments:

  1. Interesting Todd, but what if out of those 'literally millions of little decisions' that you make daily, some were predetermined for you. Maybe you thought of taking one particular path, but then for no apparent reason, you decide to take another, then wham, as fate would have it something totally out of the blue happens to you. ;)

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  2. Hey Sire,

    That's the thing ... I suppose it's a little of both. On some level, You decided (so have to accept at least some responsibility), but whatever result that decision brings, the milisecond after it happens, it was meant to be. If you want to call that fate, who I am I to argue? ;-)

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  3. Because I have noticed that everything happens for a reason, I think it goes hand in hand with fate. If whatever you do, feel, think or decide is not bound to fate then how can everything happen for a reason?
    I have been asking myself this question!

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